Author: BeDoLove

About BeDoLove

"You must be willing to let go of the life we planned... so as to have the life that is waiting for us." -Joseph Campbell Who are you? What do you love? What is your "life's purpose"? What are you passionate about? What is sacred to you? Who Am I? Hey there loves! I'm finally here, present, and accounted for. Who am I? Well, I've been described as an "emancipated woman", "paradox", and "the DC Zagat Princess". Sure these descriptions paint a nice picture of who I am, but I continue to question myself often with the five questions I started off with. I know there is so much more that my soul is guiding me to in order to be a contribution and an extraordinary being if only I would just listen, allow myself to be guided by my soul, and then act accordingly. Telling myself or better yet listening for the truth hasn't always been easy. But, the cool thing is I've never ceased to stop having a thirst to learn regardless of the hard lessons and truths learned about myself and life. Because at the end of the day for me it ALWAYS comes back to "what is my life's purpose?". I decided it's to "Be" all that I can be by being a gift and inspiration to myself and the world. Just "Be" with no fear, no worry of judgement or how it looks. "Do" and create all that I can possibly "Do" in order to experience complete joy and peace so that I give others permission to "Do" the same. And, "Love", "Love", "Love"! "Love" is the ultimate common denominator of life. Without unconditional love (I'm still a work in progress in this area) for self, others, and life overall you will continue to experience a difficult and oftentimes unfulfilled journey. The opposite of "Love" is "Fear". Well it's time to choose. And, I'm choosing "Love" because it has already chosen me. Time to Be About It One way I've FINALLY decided to BeDoLove and live my "life's purpose" is to create this blog. My quiet dream (I have many) has been my writing. It is one of my greatest gifts of expression that I am grateful for and one that many loved ones (including my soul and soulmates) have told me time and time again that they enjoy and have said "You should start a blog" or "You should write a book". Life is But a Dream Lived I am an open and adventurous lover of life and now with this blog I truly get to be consistent with writing (I might need an accountability partner from time to time) and share my inner spiritual thoughts (maybe some poetry too) with you and balance it out with delicious food experiences, adventure, and fun. People are amazing. And, this world we live in is truly amazing. I believe that you can have "falling in love" moments with life over and over and over again when we are open to experiencing it through living out our dreams and desires. One of my favorite quotes is "When was the last time you did something for the first time." Life just won't be totally perfect, but we can have many perfect experiences. I haven't always followed my true path, but it's never too late to turn it around and truly dance to the amazing thumping beat of my own rhythmically flowing and freeing drum. We only have this life to live. I invite you to subscribe to my blog and follow me (and invite others) on this journey with the hope of me breathing life to my ever expanding thoughts and inevitably inspiring you to do the same. Let's go BeDoLove! ONWARD!!! KCB Dedication to Those Who Have Inspired and Believed in Me This blog is dedicated to my dear friend and spiritual guide Ron "MF" D. who transitioned on to another space and time. It's also dedicated to my beautiful friend Margo who too transitioned on. They were (and continue to be as my angels) two of my biggest cheerleaders in life and allowed me to be and who both I know would love this blog (I invite them to stop through). This is also dedicated to each and every one of you who have said to me "You should start a blog!" Finally I'm listening and overcoming fear. Thank you all for not giving up on me. Thank you Mother, Father, God, The Universe!

Adventures of a HAWT Caregiver & Dope Pop – 🎶Let’s Take a Long Walk…🎶

Honestly, I’ve been shielding Pop I’m sure more than I should. Knowing he too needs fresh air and to stretch his legs. Well, because Pop’s hearing matters, this morning we made a visit to Miracle Ear for much needed adjustments to Pop’s hearing aids. Tony at Miracle Ear in Silver Spring (off New Hampshire Ave.) was nice enough to do curbside pick up. And, he tended to the aids while we waited in the car. Really professional and nice guy.


For some scenic driving, on the way home I detoured to Sligo Creek Parkway. It was so beautiful and calming that it was worth a stop and walk. A pretty short walk for Pop, but a nice one nonetheless.

Pop: This is beautiful. So many trees. They have to make sure to preserve places like this.

Remember to take moments to get some sun, fresh air, and nature love. Our body and spirit requires it. And, that goes for me with more walking/hiking. Make it a great day. And, as Pop says, “Have a good day. Be safe. Don’t work too hard. Love!” #BeDoLove #CaregiversMatter

PS: The Bagelry was right next door to Miracle Ear. The Reuben on a Marble Rye bagel was everything. I can’t wait to try their Lox Spread on an Everything Bagel. Had a nice chat with Steve who gave perfect recommendations.

Me: Pop I’m going to check out the bagel shop. (Because, I know Pop loves a good bagel.)

Pop: Corned beef. (tee hee)

🎶I Know You Heard Me on the Radio. TRRUUUUEEEE!!!🎶 – Navigating a Pandemic with Fun & Purpose

Please tune into INSIDE OUT LGBT RADIO Show today, Tuesday, May 19, 2pm-3pm EST as we discuss the topic of “Navigating a Pandemic with Fun & Purpose.” Tune in from the DMV at WPFW 89.3 FM or stream live ANYWHERE from your computer, phone or tablet at Join the conversation with questions and to share your thoughts at 202-588-0893. Please share and spread the word.

Please join me and my guests Sonia Pruitt and Charlie Lewis, as we have a thoughtful and fun conversation about the current state of affairs and how they are navigating this time personally and in their perspective careers. HUUUUUU…

Charlie Lewis – Associate Broker, Corcoran Group; Host, “Love the Way You Live” Podcast

Sonia Pruitt – Captain, Montgomery County Police Department; National Chairwoman, The National Black Police Association (NBPA); Educator, Montgomery College

Thank you for the love and support. Send us good vibes. Make it a safe and beautiful day. Be great. Be courageous. Be Bold. BeDoLove!#WPFW #InsideOutLGBTRadioShow #BeDoLove #FindYourZen #BirthAndLiveYourSoulFULLPurpose #JuicySweetSpot #LivingOutLoud #SocialDistancing

Update: If you missed this amazing and engaging show with one gem after the next, click the link to listen in.

Adventures of a HAWT Caregiver & Dope Pop – Always Go for the High Notes

Oatmeal Time!


Someone needs this blessing today. Someone needs to see what I‘m not phased looks like during a terminal illness and pandemic. This 90-years young man blesses me on a daily in some form or fashion, whether whistling, giggling, humming, calling me darling (I love when he calls me that.), saying thank you, giving me an exploding fist bump (😆It took him a while to get it.),dropping knowledge, or talking back to/cussing while watching CNN.


Pop: (At 7 something Saturday on the way to the kitchen for his daily coffee/pastry.) 🎶Did I wake you?🎶 (More so sung than spoken.)

Me: No. (😳 Because, he’s never asked me that.)

Pop: Oh, because I’ve been going since early. (😆Like he knows he was on.)


And, he had. I could hear him since early doing almost all of the above. This video was about two hours later from when he first asked if he woke me. It’s during his 2nd morning ritual of the day, warming his oatmeal (He prepares a batch for the week.).

Warming is oatmeal with love and song.


In less than a year, Pop unexpectedly came to live with me to us now isolating together. Life is something else. And, I’ll be the better for it. As he’s such an example of calm, grace, fun, and just not sweating the small or the big stuff for that matter.


Be blessed out there. Be light. Be love. Be expressive. Be fun. Be grace. As Pop say’s, “Have a good day. Be safe. Don’t work too hard. Love!” #MorningPopTalk #CaregiversMatter #SocialDistancing #StayHome


Double Backstory – In the 1980s or early 1990s, Pop gave up smoking. oatmeal intentionally replaced smoking and became his new norm. Now I can hear when he’s on the phone saying, “I’m eating oatmeal so I can gain weight.” 😁 Bless his oatmeal loving heart. Although one day recently, he said he was over oatmeal. 😆 NOT!

My Tribe’s Virtual Happy Hour/Sit & Sip

Recently I thought, if this was the 1990s and a big snowstorm was brewing, the landline phone chain would have begun. I’d rush to pack a bag, zoom off in my Ford Probe, pick up a few things along the way to share, and head to Jon, Ginger, Margaret, and Dilcia’s spot in SE, DC to shelter down amongst my nurturing and Coo Coo for Cocoa Puffs friends. And, in the midst of it all, I’d patiently wait for Jon to prepare his heavily induced ricotta cheese lasagna. Mmmmm…


Fast forward to smartphones and video conferencing apps. Our Thirsty/Therapy Thursday crew is made up of long time Howard friends (HUUUU…) and our extended family. We’ve gathered on and off on Thursdays for many many years. The off times is usually because life happens, we found a restaurant/lounge not suitable to effectively accommodate us or due to closings.

During this social distancing time, we had a virtual happy hour (Or as Pop would call it, a “sit and sip.”) this past Thursday utilizing Zoom with all the ingredients of a fun happy hour. It was perfect timing as that day I was experiencing intense anxiety. Between work which is moving at a fast pace and our state of affairs, it was a bit much.


Well, we started at 5:45pm (shout out to techie Harlem Knight for getting us set up) and I don’t even remember when we ended, but I laughed belly laughs the entire time as my people are comical.

We came and went freely. And, even us caregivers (me and April) got our parents in on the fun. Although Pop exited the room at some point because we were too loud and he wanted to hear CNN and freely call “him” a punk one more time. And, April banished her mom because every time someone new entered they asked “who is that coughing.” 🤣 Too cute and funny having them both on.


The evening had all of the makings of happy hour:

-It was loud with lots of laughter to include the normal teasing of each other.

-The adult beverages flowed (I made margaritas.)

-I broke the first rule, and didn’t eat beforehand or during, so by the first drink and tequila shot I was quite tipsy. And, funny. At least I thought. And, at the end, I was craving some good a$$ Stan’s or HoChi fried chicken wings with mambo sauce.

-Then the bathroom runs started. I knew not to mistakenly take the crew with me to the bathroom. I would have never lived that down.

-I broke out with intense and persistent hot flashes.

-I laughed. And, laughed. And, laughed. Which is how at some point over the years “Thirsty Thursday” became “Therapy Thursday.” I guess that would suggest we matured and evolved. Some. 😆

Notable moments:

-“Ardella don’t jump!”

-“Dayum Jon. You still…”

-“Turn the volume on…”

-Because we were talking and laughing over each other, someone had the nerve to want to invoke rules of when to talk. I was like “HELLO! This is happy hour.”


My crew may not know it, but, on those Thursdays I was in attendance, they often got me through some tough times. Often coming because my spirit required it more than anything. And, hoping in a moment I extended the same to someone requiring a spirit lift. So with much love and abundance, I love and thank YOU all for being YOU and for being present.


And, to all, during this time, remember you don’t have to be alone or feel alone. Command moments to exhale and relax. Dance parties are in abundance. If you’re waiting for someone to lead, you lead. Summon your tribe. Schedule or do an impromptu virtual group or one-on-one meet up via FaceTime, Facebook Messenger (yes you can do video calls from there), WhatsApp, Zoom, Skype, etc. the bonus is they are all FREE!!! Just stay connected in healthy and meaningful ways. And, be mindful that you and yours are partaking responsibly during this time. To you and yours, be well. Enjoy! Peace! Love! Cheers! #BeDoLove #SocialDistancing #VirtualHappyHours

Adventures of a HAWT Caregiver & Dope Pop – Sit & Sip

Rassii recently visited Trinidad to take care of some business. One day my phone rings.


Rassii: What you want from Trinidad? (called while in the store)

Me: Ohhh, I’m good. (pause) (pause) Actually, some curry powder and tamarind balls.

Pop: (who is ear hustling) 1824 or 1787.

Me: 🤨


Well pre-social distancing, the special delivery of the 1787 Angostura Caribbean Rum arrived just in time for Jeopardy. It’s aged 15 years and is serious yummylicious business. I‘m sure Rassii is now on Pop’s good list forever and ever, amen.


Pop: We’re having a sit and sip. Don’t be quaffing. 😳🤣🤣🤣 (One of those Scrabble words. Meaning to drink (something, especially an alcoholic drink) heartily.)

The bonus at that time was my brother Greg visited from Brooklyn (we surprised Pop). It was the first time Greg visited me and he slid in quite comfortably, even navigating himself around the neighborhood via walking (Because that’s what New Yorkers do.). His visit was a breath of loving and fun, fresh air, full of great convo, belly laughs, and sit and sips.

Cheers all from me, Pop, my brother Greg (1 of 3), and my super dope “Bison”, “Showtime”, “Frat Brother”, and angel on earth Rassii! As we navigate these times, may you and yours have relaxing and engaging sit and sips. Cheers!


I am so grateful for the love and support of family and friends. It means a lot to me and most of all to Pop.


Love up on the sick and shut in and caregivers, especially during these concerning times. While visits may not be an option due to the suggested “social distancing”, calls (especially video calls) from a friendly voice could be what is needed at the moment or offering to pick up groceries/essentials and/or a little something special. A nice card is always a surprise welcome nowadays. Also, acknowledging caregivers is so important to their spirit. Loving and encouraging words can go a long way to soothe the sometimes weary heart. Be safe. Be well. Peace! #CaregiversMatter #BeDoLove #PopIs90YearsOldYoung

#1787AngosturaRum #Trinidad #TrinidadAndTobago #Yummyliciousness #HowardUniversity #Howarding #ShowtimeMarchingBand #KappaKappaPsi #TauBetaSigma #BisonLove #BisonPride #Bison4Life #BisonStrong #InTruthAndService #BleedBlue #TheMecca #HUYouKnow #ImSoGladIWentToHowardU

🎶I Know You Heard Me on the Radio. TRRUUUE!!!🎶 – Special Sam “The Man” Burns Tribute

Please join me and DJ Paul Howard aka Saeed on DC’s WPFW-FM’s “Inside Out LGBT Radio Show” for a special 2-hour tribute to DC’s Godfather of House Music, Sam “The Man” Burns. Tune in today, Tuesday, March 17, 2020 from 1p-3p EST. DMV experience the magical musical vibes live on 89.3FM and all can stream us at


During the show call in to share your thoughts on house music and/or your favorite and fondest Sam memory at 202-588-0893. Please share and spread the word.


DJ Paul said it best when he reflected on Sam, “Whenever I saw him, he would always say how proud he was of me. He was a giant, but he walked amongst us like a normal human being.”


Thank you for the love and support. Send us good vibes. Please join us and enjoy! Make it a safe and beautiful day and week. Be great. Be courageous. Be Bold. BeDoLove! Peace! #WPFW #InsideOutLGBTRadioShow #BeDoLove #FindYourZen #BirthAndLiveYourSoulFULLPurpose #JuicySweetSpot #LivingOutLoud #LGBTQLivesMatter #HouseMusic #HouseMusicAllNightLong #IllHouseYou

Adventures of a HAWT Caregiver & Dope Pop – Liverwurst Anyone?

Pop: (a few weeks ago random) I want a liverwurst sandwich on pumpernickel with Muenster cheese, tomato, and mayonnaise.


Me: 😳🤔


Any other caregivers receiving interesting requests? I was most perplexed about the Muenster cheese. Pop says it helps to cut the taste of the liverwurst. I think it also helps to cut the taste of the pumpernickel.


After some recommendations and an okay find (see below), I took matters into my own hands by tapping into my cheffing skills. Found some really good liverwurst at the Amish Market in Annapolis. Pop was impressed with the liverwurst and my sandwich skills. He gave the thumbs up. At first I wasn’t going to have a sandwich (especially since I’m not a fan of pumpernickel) but I tasted his and couldn’t resist. It was delish. Forgive me. I’ll return soon to tell the brand. Let’s me truly know all liverwurst is not made equal.

Why do I say that? After at first calling a couple of my go to delis (Deli City Restaurant on Bladensburg Road in DC and Parkway Deli in Sliver Spring, MD) and receiving help from my Facebook friends (WOW! I was surprised at how many folks love liverwurst.), I found New York City Deli in College Park that carried liverwurst. Pop said the sandwich was good. After tasting theirs and the Amish Market (far better) liverwurst, they don’t compare in taste and texture.


Still want to get to Binkert’s which has “the best in German meats.” Thanks Tim. And, Chutzpah Deli, which is a Jewish NYC in Fairfax. Thanks Angel. Enjoy! #CaregiversMatter #Yummyliciousness #Liverwurst #IChefToWriteAboutIt #AmishMarket #IPrayToEatFoodILove

Adventures of a HAWT Caregiver & Dope Pop – 🎶My Funny Valentine…🎶

Ladies and gentlemen, I present a love day serenade 🎤 to you, you and YOU of our Pop, Enric Quentin Boxill’s beautiful whistling rendition of “My Funny Valentine.” Sit back and relax as you melt with joy. Trust! Enjoy! And, Happy Love Day! Especially to all the loving caregivers. 😍

View the video here:


Backstory: Pop does daily random acts of whistling, humming, singing, and giggling (usually laughing at 45). It’s most endearing and like music to my ears when I hear him from another room. This was recorded at about 7amish this past Tuesday. He’d been whistling that morning way before and continued way after. Pop’s mother was an amazing whistler. I’m not too bad myself. Perhaps we’ll do a duet next time. 😁


Pop says, “Have a good day. Be safe. Don’t work too hard. Love!” #MorningPopTalk #CareGiversMatter #BeDoLove #NinetyYearsYoung #Whistling #MyFunnyValentine

Adventures of a HAWT Caregiver & Dope Pop – Cello!!!

Remember the young man who magnificently played the cello and made you take notice at Harry and Meghan’s royal wedding in May 2018? I know I do. And, so did Pop so much so when he saw in the newspaper that he was to perform close by, Pop requested to attend the concert.

Saint-Saëns’s First Cello Concerto with the Baltimore Symphony Orchestra at the Joseph Meyerhoff Symphony Hall – February 1, 2020

Last weekend, Sheku Kanneh-Mason (the 3rd of 7 gifted musical children) performed a moving Saint-Saëns’s First Cello Concerto with the Baltimore Symphony Orchestra at the Joseph Meyerhoff Symphony Hall. As an encore he played Bob Marley’s “No Woman No Cry.” We’re so grateful to have experienced the beauty of his talent. Not only that, it was equally beautiful experiencing his passion in his movements and bringing some much desired “color” and edge to the space with his white African print shirt and Bob Marley selection.

Thank you Sheku for being a gift by being YOU and bringing a beautiful and vibrant face to this musical world. Looking forward to seeing you again hopefully in the near future.

This was my first time seeing Sheku and the BSO perform in person. To you reading this, there’s so much to be explored and enjoyed that’s off the beaten path and so therapeutic. Be open. Seek and explore. Breathe. Exhale. Love!

“When was the last time you did something for the first time?” —unknown #BeDoLove #SupportTheArts #FindYourZen #OffTheBeatenPath #LivingOutLoud #StringsAreMyThang #BirthAndLiveYourSOULfullPurpose #ShekuKannehMason #ClassicalMusic #Cello

Nice recent interview –

🎶I Know You Heard Me on the Radio. TRRUUUE!!!🎶 – How to Make a Difference Supporting the LGBTQ Community

Update: If you missed this amazing and VERY INFORMATIVE show, you can find the recording at:


*Archive page at

*Subscribe on iTunes at WPFW – Inside Out

Shout out to my HU boyeee and ally Clarence who showed me much love by paying the show a visit. It truly meant a lot.


Please tune into INSIDE OUT LGBT RADIO SHOW today, Tuesday, January 7, 2pm-3pm EST as we discuss the topic of “How to Make a Difference Supporting the LGBTQ Community.” Tune in from the DMV at WPFW 89.3 FM or stream live ANYWHERE from your computer, phone or tablet at

While, we’ve witnessed incredible change and progress in how the District of Columbia’s LGBTQ community is supported, there is still much work to be done. My guest is Sheila Alexander-Reid, who is the Director of The Mayor’s Office of LGBTQ Affairs. Please join us for a discussion on the successes as well as the areas of concern to the community (i.e., youth homelessness, housing vouchers, seniors, transgender rights) and how the office is and how you can be a difference.

Thank you for the love and support. Send us good vibes. Please join us and enjoy! Make it a safe and beautiful day and week. Be great. Be courageous. Be Bold. BeDoLove! #WPFW #InsideOutLGBTRadioShow #BeDoLove #FindYourZen #BirthAndLiveYourSoulFULLPurpose #JuicySweetSpot #LivingOutLoud #LGBTQLivesMatter #RespectMeDC #MayorsOfficeOfLGBTQAffairs

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