Author: BeDoLove

About BeDoLove

"You must be willing to let go of the life we planned... so as to have the life that is waiting for us." -Joseph Campbell Who are you? What do you love? What is your "life's purpose"? What are you passionate about? What is sacred to you? Who Am I? Hey there loves! I'm finally here, present, and accounted for. Who am I? Well, I've been described as an "emancipated woman", "paradox", and "the DC Zagat Princess". Sure these descriptions paint a nice picture of who I am, but I continue to question myself often with the five questions I started off with. I know there is so much more that my soul is guiding me to in order to be a contribution and an extraordinary being if only I would just listen, allow myself to be guided by my soul, and then act accordingly. Telling myself or better yet listening for the truth hasn't always been easy. But, the cool thing is I've never ceased to stop having a thirst to learn regardless of the hard lessons and truths learned about myself and life. Because at the end of the day for me it ALWAYS comes back to "what is my life's purpose?". I decided it's to "Be" all that I can be by being a gift and inspiration to myself and the world. Just "Be" with no fear, no worry of judgement or how it looks. "Do" and create all that I can possibly "Do" in order to experience complete joy and peace so that I give others permission to "Do" the same. And, "Love", "Love", "Love"! "Love" is the ultimate common denominator of life. Without unconditional love (I'm still a work in progress in this area) for self, others, and life overall you will continue to experience a difficult and oftentimes unfulfilled journey. The opposite of "Love" is "Fear". Well it's time to choose. And, I'm choosing "Love" because it has already chosen me. Time to Be About It One way I've FINALLY decided to BeDoLove and live my "life's purpose" is to create this blog. My quiet dream (I have many) has been my writing. It is one of my greatest gifts of expression that I am grateful for and one that many loved ones (including my soul and soulmates) have told me time and time again that they enjoy and have said "You should start a blog" or "You should write a book". Life is But a Dream Lived I am an open and adventurous lover of life and now with this blog I truly get to be consistent with writing (I might need an accountability partner from time to time) and share my inner spiritual thoughts (maybe some poetry too) with you and balance it out with delicious food experiences, adventure, and fun. People are amazing. And, this world we live in is truly amazing. I believe that you can have "falling in love" moments with life over and over and over again when we are open to experiencing it through living out our dreams and desires. One of my favorite quotes is "When was the last time you did something for the first time." Life just won't be totally perfect, but we can have many perfect experiences. I haven't always followed my true path, but it's never too late to turn it around and truly dance to the amazing thumping beat of my own rhythmically flowing and freeing drum. We only have this life to live. I invite you to subscribe to my blog and follow me (and invite others) on this journey with the hope of me breathing life to my ever expanding thoughts and inevitably inspiring you to do the same. Let's go BeDoLove! ONWARD!!! KCB Dedication to Those Who Have Inspired and Believed in Me This blog is dedicated to my dear friend and spiritual guide Ron "MF" D. who transitioned on to another space and time. It's also dedicated to my beautiful friend Margo who too transitioned on. They were (and continue to be as my angels) two of my biggest cheerleaders in life and allowed me to be and who both I know would love this blog (I invite them to stop through). This is also dedicated to each and every one of you who have said to me "You should start a blog!" Finally I'm listening and overcoming fear. Thank you all for not giving up on me. Thank you Mother, Father, God, The Universe!

My Stay at Aloft Tulum

During my recent Tulum, Mexico solo birthday exhale, instead of a resort, I preferred the freedom to move about and explore. A boutique hotel such as the Aloft Tulum was more of my speed. They are under the umbrella of the Marriott family and opened earlier this year. Thank you Aloft Tulum for taking care of me. I appreciated the feeling of safety and being cared for. Best wishes.


I enjoyed my stay there and the pros were plenty:

~Great rate. I booked through Expedia.

~The location was perfect.

~Right off the main road with access to many restaurants.

-Easy to get around by taxi or bicycle (I did not bicycle.🤷🏽‍♀️) Sidebar: Traffic can be slow. Taxis are pricey.

~The staff was very welcoming, accommodating, attentive, and friendly.

~Enrique and others helped with taxis, setting up beach club reservations, answering questions, accommodating requests, and extending nice daily hospitality especially as I traveled solo.

~Jorge of Excursion Travel was very helpful with booking my airport transfers. Getting to Tulum from Cancun airport is about 90 miles. While I paid more than I had to, my safety and knowing who I was riding with was more important.

~They have a sexy rooftop with an infinity pool, cabanas, nice music, and great views.


Full disclosure:

~Tulum has quite a bit of development happening. I could handle the early morning jack hammers. You may need earplugs.

~There was frustration related to WiFi, which was out for half of my stay.

Overall, it was a great place that I’d stay at again. Enjoy! #BeDoLove #Howarding #FindYourZen #LivingOutLoud #Wanderlust #SoloVacation #ColorOutsideTheLines #OffTheBeatenPath #Tulum #TulumHotels #TulumHotel #TulumMexico #TulumBoutiqueHotel #Aloft #AloftHotel #AloftTulum

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Yummylicious Art Beach Tulum

During a Tulum taxi ride, I’m grateful my eyes caught the women whose faces were made up so beautifully and funky. Quickly catching the name of the spot they stood outside of before it was out of sight. A divine moment of appreciating slow Tulum traffic.

After looking it up, the next night I decided on Art Beach Tulum (opened in October) for my special date night on the eve of my birthday. WOW! Art Beach far exceeded my palate desires as it’s truly “Where food and art emerge.” Making it the serendipitous and perfect experience for a grieving and healing heart.

Their dinner show was a serendipitous and memorable culinary experience from the moment I was welcomed at the door by handsome and smiling Nelson, to the beautiful beach breeze and night sky, to the sexy ambiance, to Candi @canndans taking attentive care of me at the bar, to the music by @dj_fildoc, and the additional entertainment. The beautiful harp player @valentinaharpist and dancers were captivating and came through with the sexy.

Check out this video of @valentinaharpist and the dancers.

EVERY dish and hard to decide cocktail were eye-catching and euphorically delicious and satisfying. Candi did an exceptional job offering recommendations and passionately describing how to enjoy the meals. Kudos and a round of applause to culinary director Maximiliano Sola and the gastronomic eminence Martin Berasategui. Thank you Art Beach, Nelson, and Candi for an unforgettable and what felt like a special VIP birthday experience.

I delighted in the:

~TEPACHE SOUR – Bulleit Bourbon, Tepache, Lemon Juice, Egg White

~CREAMY MUSHROOM RAVIOLI – Foie Gras Soup, Iberian Ham

~GITANO – Tanqueray 10, St. Germain, Green Chartreuse

~SUD VIDE STRIPED SEA BASS – Asparagus Risotto, Seawood Cream, Kalamatas and Fennel Air

~CALIPSO – Havana Club Rum, Grand Marnier, Coconut, Vanilla

~LEMON ICE CREAM – Chocolate Crumble, Touch or Basil and Pea Pod

The next day while in a taxi, I once again passed Art Beach. To my surprise Nelson saw and recognized me and we both waved enthusiastically. I wished I’d gone back for seconds of his dreamy eyes. Oh, and for the delicious cuisine and cocktails too. The best to you Art Beach. I’m sure you’ll be one of my first stops on my next visit. Mmmmm… Bon Appetit! Cheers! Enjoy! #BeDoLove #FindYourZen #LivingOutLoud #Wanderlust #ColorOutsideTheLines #BeDoLoveSAVOR #IDineToWriteAboutIt #BonAppetit #Yummylicious #Yummyliciousness #Foodie #FoodieLife #FoodPorn #ExpandYourPalate #OffTheBeatenPath #Tulum #TulumDining #ArtBeachTulum

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Yummylicious Harewood Tulum

Farm-to-table and powered by solar panels, Hartwood is one of those world renowned and hard to get into restaurants found even in a quaint low key town such as Tulum.

On the double nickel anniversary of my birth, I arrived at Hartwood at 5:30pm with eyes wide opened at the sight of an already growing line. I took my place in the queue, not aware of who had reservations (They start taking them a month in advance.) or who was also participating in the moment of silent prayer to the foodie Gods for one of the four coveted bar seats. Rolling solo, my only option was one of those first come first served stools. With each person/group seated, I was a ball of emotional confusion, exhaling and growing more anxious as I was one step closer to the entrance. The restaurant filled up just like that, I as the third bar guest. YAAAYYY MEEEE!!!

The music like basically all of the spots in Tulum was pumping the perfect playlist which relaxed me from my brief yet stressful line experience.

Instead of passing out menus or being directed to the QR code, the menu items were described from a blackboard. I requested repeats and clarifications to ensure I choose items for what would be the makings of a delightful birthday dinner.

I thankfully opted for the eye-rolling, fresh, and flavorful explosion in my mouth “Ceviche De Quelites.”WOAH! My palate was like GUUUURRRRLLLL!!! 😋😋😋 Next up were the mouthwatering and falling off the bone ribs. I wish I could have bottled up the BBQ Tamarind Sauce. I sipped on the tasty Espina Mezcal Cacahaute. How can I get a bottle mailed to the states? The “Honey Pie” arrived with a flickering candle and accompanied by a 🎶Happy Birthday…🎶 serenade, which were the perfect finale to my evening. I’m grateful to Hartwood and the other bar stool guests for being so kind to me on my special day.

My evening delights were:

~CEVICHE DE QUELITES – Snapper, Fermented Pineapple, Capache???, Herbs, Mango Chile Oil

~COSTILLAS AL AGAVE – Ribs, Grilled Pineapple, Pickled Cabbage, Pickled Chile, Tamarind BBQ Sauce.



I’m still dreaming about the ceviche. It was sooooo good. Mmmmm… Bon Appetit! Cheers! Enjoy! #BeDoLove #FindYourZen #LivingOutLoud #Wanderlust #ColorOutsideTheLines #SweetSpot #BeDoLoveSAVOR #IDineToWriteAboutIt #LiveAndBreatheYourSoulFULLPurpose #BonAppetit #Yummylicious #Yummyliciousness #Foodie #FoodieLife #FoodPorn #ExpandYourPalate #OffTheBeatenPath #Tulum #TulumDining #HartwoodTulum

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Yummylicious Bal Nak Tulum

My first Tulum dinner experience was at Bal Nak @balnaktulum, which is a modern Mexican restaurant that opened in 2018. Prior to visiting, they were very responsive on WhatsApp and extended to me a nice welcome to Tulum. Similar to many places in Tulum, entering their open space is an experience in itself with the magical jungle motif.

Video of entering Bal Nak.

Everything was delish. Especially the “Chocolate Clams.” My first thought was that the dish would have chocolate as an ingredient, since Mexico is known for that. However, that would be too easy. It’s actually because of the clams rich chocolate color and the silky texture of their shells. This delicacy is harvested in The Sea of Cortez and the Pacific coastal region of the Baja Peninsula. With the various flavors and textures, the “Chocolate Clams” dish was like a sensual party my palate was happy I was invited to.

With my intense sweet tooth, the “Coconut Ice Cream” was the perfect welcome to Tulum dessert. Honestly, I didn’t have another dessert in Tulum that came in even as a close second. It had me this close 🤌🏽 to asking for seconds or returning for more. The ice cream was so smooth with the Passionfruit jelly and butter cookie crunch as tasty enhancers.

The menu also consisted of an assortment of cocktails, which included the tasty “Mexican Elderberry.”

~MEXICAN ELDERBERRY – Tequila Reposado + passion fruit + lime.

~CHOCOLATE CLAMS – Cucumber + onion + pumpkin seeds + house sauce.

Yummylicious video of Chocolate Clams.

~PAAP POOP – Tequila Reposado + spic liquor Habanero + roasted pineapple + agave honey.

~SMOKED SHORT RIBS – Mushrooms + pickled onions + mashed avocado + hibiscus marinade. The short ribs are cooked for 18 hours and then grilled.

~Coconut Ice Cream – Butter cookie + Passion fruit jelly + almonds

Mmmmm… Bon Appetit! Cheers! Enjoy! #BeDoLove #FindYourZen #LivingOutLoud #Wanderlust #SweetSpot #ColorOutsideTheLines #BeDoLoveSAVOR #IDineToWriteAboutIt #BonAppetit #Yummylicious #Yummyliciousness #Foodie #FoodieLife #FoodPorn #ExpandYourPalate #OffTheBeatenPath #Tulum #TulumDining #BalNakTulum

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@Samjmx I know you sent me to @escama.tulum to purchase a good bottle of Tequila, but it was so much more.

Oh, the bonuses let me count the way.

~They were walking distance from the hotel. Taxi’s aren’t cheap here.

~Escama – Cantina de Mar just opened in October. The have a boutique selling tequila and wine and a restaurant specializing in seafood cuisine. The seafood soup was warm, delicious, and comforting. 🍲

~They have a nice selection of classic and craft cocktails, which included a pretty darn good Aviation and Mezcal Manhattan prepared by @gilbertmoct who was showing off with his cocktail making skills. Both cocktails are the type that the taste is enhanced with each new sip.

Gilberto the mixologist.
Gilberto the mixologist.

~The Mezcal Manhattan was prepared with women owned Xila Mezcal @drink_xila. 🍸

~I capped off the night with a tasty sip of Tierra Noble’s Tequila Blanco @tierranoblemx.

~Sidebar: I’d love to find both of those tequila brands.

~Oh, and the music they played and the live band Quintana @nehemiasmusic put me in a total zen and fun vibe. To include them coming over and serenading me. (Tee hee) ☺️🎤☺️🎤☺️

Quintana @nehemiasmusic
Quintana @nehemiasmusic
Quintana @nehemiasmusic

Thank YOU everyone for a wonderful experience as I continue to celebrate my Saggilicious birthday. The best to Escama and Chef @miguelrhidalgo as you continue to grow. Mmmmm… Bon Appetit! Cheers! Enjoy! #BeDoLove #FindYourZen #LivingOutLoud #Wanderlust#ColorOutsideTheLines #SweetSpot #BeDoLoveSAVOR #IDineToWriteAboutIt #LiveAndBreatheYourSoulFULLPurpose #BonAppetit #Yummylicious #Yummyliciousness #Foodie #FoodieLife #FoodPorn #ExpandYourPalate #OffTheBeatenPath #Tulum #TulumDining #EscamaTulum #SupportTheArts #NehemiasMusic #TierraNoble #Xila #Tequila

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Double Nickel Birthday Gratitude

Kathryn I love YOU! You’re my best friend. Through the heartbreak you continue to grow. You seek and push through the deeper levels of healing. You’ve been serendipitously and purposefully guided to people, places, and things that fill your tank as you seek peace, joy, and freedom. I love how you continue to strengthen your “yes muscle” to only what feels right and what you desire. I appreciate your perseverance and being an open vessel for “living out loud” despite the moments where it’s heavier than you care to bare. Kathryn you’re a chameleon of love, beauty, spirituality, strength, fear, fierceness, softness, feisty, lovable, city, urban, quaintness, spoiled, giver, introvert, home body, adventurer, sociable, quiet, high pitched passion, courage, fun, silly and cooky friend, sweet lover, sensual, smart, curiosity, creativity, over thinker, leader, student, impatient, overly patient, compassion, empathy, f*k you… I love every level of humanness that makes you YOU! I do hope I’m my parents and ancestors “wildest dreams.”

With that said, Today I’m in Tulum on my 55th birthday. Spirit said Kathryn for this birthday and for your healing, leave the states and go get kissed by the sun, bathe in the beach, and delight delicious vittles all in the backdrop of cool quaint vibes. For this I choose Tulum, Mexico. Or Tulum chose me as it’s been calling out to me ever since I’ve visited on day trips a couple of times. And, it’s been perfect thus far. This was me last night, taking myself out on a lovely birthday dinner date at Art Beach Tulum.

Honestly caregiving and then caregiving during a pandemic topped off with menopause emotional swings WORE.ME.OUT! Like deep depression OUT! Like developing anxiety attacks on the Beltway/495 in the Fall of 2020 and I’m still fighting my way through them. With the help of Naturopathic doctors, therapists, family, friends, coworkers, and most important with self-care I’m doing a lot better.

Day by day, I’m feeling more like myself. My free spirit and adventurous self needed the world to open up. Needing to balance the grieving of Pop transitioning and caregiving and pandemic PTSD with living, connecting, and luxuriating.

I’m so grateful and blessed for this day. My life. My family and friends. I love and appreciate IT ALL. I love and appreciate YOU ALL. Thank YOU! Thank YOU! Thank YOU Mother, Father, God!

Remember, our world and many are still not doing well. We need each other. And, that’s okay. Be mindful of the silent. Be mindful of the emotional stuffers. Someone you know needs to know they matter and are loved. Let them know. Show them by words and deeds. And, if that many is you, you don’t have to sit in it alone. There are safe spaces God and your angels have and will continue to guide for you to land on. Don’t run from them. Run to them. Peace. Live. Love. Namaste. #BeDoLove #FindYourZen #LivingOutLoud #LiveAndBreatheYourSoulFULLPurpose #SweetSpot #Wanderlust

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Yummylicious Mad Cow Grill Sunday Brunch

Last Sunday I delighted in a delicious Sunday brunch with my dear Bison friend Jon. I was a first time caller (Jon as usual has established VIP status. 😆) to Mad Cow Grill in Laurel, MD (They also have a location in Brandywine.) and it did not disappoint.

The restaurant specializes in American and international fare, including some of my favorite Caribbean dishes. I was expecting a small restaurant and instead was greeted by a very lively nice size restaurant that includes outside tented seating. The music was mostly a fun selection of ole school Caribbean, rap, R&B, and pop. And, you can’t beat $16 bottomless mimosas.

Jamaica born Chef Neville was on point with the:

~Callaloo, Salt Fish w/Fried Dumplings, Provision, Tomato, and Onions

~Rasta Pasta – Tricolor Rotini, Shrimp, Sautéed Vegetables, Herb Coconut Cream Sauce

~Unforgettable Braised Oxtails w/Plantains, and Rice and Beans

Mad Cow will definitely be included in my restaurant rotation. I hear they have a Fish Friday. Mmmmm… Bon Appetit! Cheers! Enjoy! #BeDoLove #FindYourZen #LivingOutLoud #ColorOutsideTheLines #BeDoLoveSAVOR #IDineToWriteAboutIt #BonAppetit #Yummylicious #Yummyliciousness #Foodie #FoodieLife #FoodPorn #ExpandYourPalate #OffTheBeatenPath #MadCowGrill #Brunch #SundayBrunch #LaurelDining

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🎶A Lovely Daaayyyy…🎶

🎶When I wake up in the morning, love…🎶 This morning I awoke full of gratitude to capture this beautiful sunrise, that I get to give all honor and glory to God for. I’m reminded and I hope you are too, that even in the midst of it all to pause and smell the roses. To chill with and appreciate Mother Nature if even for a brief moment. Like really pause, take notice of the beauties of this world, while taking deep healing and rejuvenating breaths that open up your heart to pumping freely with love, joy, and sweet Pop (RIP) like giggles. To allow your inner child the opportunity to feed your soul and spirit. To: Believe! Breathe! Inhale! Exhale! Love! See! Feel! Heal! Love! Cry! Laugh! Voice! Listen! Connect! Engage! Forgive! Shift! Empathize! Love! Ask! Manifest! Gift! Receive! Activate! Create! Dream! Explore! Rebirth! Strive! Glide! Wake! Sleep! Nap! Relax! Rest! Laugh! Love! Pray! Meditate! Gratitude! Purposeful! Luxuriate! Dance! Sing! Trust! Touch! Taste! Laugh! Love!… (Fill in the blanks.)

As Pop would say, “Have a good day. Be safe. Don’t work too hard. Love!” Be blessed. Be grateful. Be safe. Be well. Enjoy. Peace. Live. Love. Namaste. #BeDoLove #Sunrise #SunriseZen #SunriseSunsets #FindYourZen #LivingOutLoud #LiveAndBreatheYourSoulFULLPurpose

“A Lovely Day” by Bill Withers

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Yummylicious Almond Saturday Funday Brunch

Three Saturday’s (9/25) ago, the day after witnessing Dereine and Butch’s beautiful nuptials, the Howard University crew and extended family gathered for a celebratory Saturday Funday Tipsy Brunch. It was one of our long overdue brunch experiences filled with a familiar kind of love and laughs.

The spot was Almond Restaurant in Flatiron, Manhattan. This popular brunch spot is a lively bistro serving French comfort food in a rustic setting. The A L’Oignon was eye rolling orgasmic. And, my bubbles infused sip of choice was one of my favorites, the French 75.

~A L’Oignon (Croques Gratin) – Caramelized onion & bone marrow

~Almond Hash – Duck confit, roasted onions, potatoes, poached egg (This was Jon’s yummy dish of choice.)

~Smoked Pastrami

~French 75 – Gin, Lemon juice, Dashes Simple syrup, Sparkling Wine

It was a beautiful and awesome time had by all. Mmmmm… Bon Appetit! Cheers! Enjoy! #BeDoLove #FindYourZen #LivingOutLoud #BeDoLoveSAVOR #IDineToWriteAboutIt #BonAppetit #Yummylicious #Yummyliciousness #Foodie #FoodieLife #FoodPorn #ExpandYourPalate #OffTheBeatenPath #AlmondRestaurant #Brunch #SaturdayBrunch #FlatironDining

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Yummylicious Pie Night

It’s good to know people in high food places like the dynamic, sweet, talented, and award winning Irene Wong. Big thanks to Irene for extending an invitation to the 7th annual Pie Night (attended September 29, 2021) at THE James Beard Award- winning Pastry Chef/Owner Dominique Ansel Bakery (Creator of the Cronut®. See below.) at his Soho, NYC location. We enjoyed unlimited slices of pie – 10 kinds with a travel theme, including sweet and savory, Grand Marnier craft cocktails, and à la mode.

As we entered the bakeries backyard garden, our eyes beamed with excitement at the sight of the long table with the beautifully displayed pies. We started with two plates, one with savory treats and the other with sweet. All included the obligatory perfect crust. FYI: October 7 is the last day of Pie Night.

My top three pies were:

~Spanish Spicy Chorizo Pie with Squid Ink Black Rice: Spanish chorizo with a hint of smoked paprika, squid ink basmati rice with onions, tomatoes, and garlic

~Portuguese Bacalao Pie with Herbed Breadcrumbs: Portuguese bacalao (salted codfish), mashed potatoes, garlic, mozzarella, and crunchy herbed breadcrumbs

~Japanese Yuzu Curd and Salted Meringue Pie: Fragrant Japanese yuzu citrus curd, lime zest, and light-as-air meringue topped with a hint of Maldon sea salt

~Bonus Mention – All American Apple Pie with Salted Caramel (Because, there’s nothing like a perfect apple pie.): Pie Night classic, made with fresh honeycrisp apples, gooey salted caramel, and a golden lattice-topped crust

Dereine and I.

It was a beautiful and tasty night hanging with my longtime dear friend Dereine (HUUUUU…) and making new foodie ones all in the name of connecting over the love of a salivating meal. Mmmmm… Bon Appetit! Cheers! Enjoy! #BeDoLove #FindYourZen #LivingOutLoud #BeDoLoveSAVOR #IDineToWriteAboutIt #BonAppetit #Yummylicious #Yummyliciousness #Foodie #FoodieLife #FoodPorn #ExpandYourPalate #OffTheBeatenPath #DominiqueAnselBakery #DABPieNight #SohoEats #SohoDining #JamesBeardFoundation

About the Cronut®:

“Perhaps what has been most widely reported on is Chef Dominique’s creation of the Cronut®, his signature croissant-doughnut hybrid pastry that first launched at his eponymous Bakery in New York in May 2013, soon becoming the world’s first-ever viral pastry.” It was named one of TIME Magazine’s “25 Best inventions of 2013. —

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