The Christmas One Year Anniversary of Pop Passing

Let’s toast and celebrate Pop as today on this here Christmas Day 2021 is the one year anniversary of his passing. My how time truly flies. While at home, on Friday, December 25, 2020 around 4:05pm, me and my brothers had the honor of releasing our 91 years young father to depart and be with The Ancestors and to joyfully become our Angel!

This year, The Nichols’ family opted for Pop as their angel. How cute and appropriate.

As my brother Greg put it at that time, “Pop went out like a man’s man.” I’ll add that Pop transitioned as the magical spiritual warrior that he is. Yes, Enric Quentin Boxill embarked on his new assignment on Christmas Day 2020. “CHRISTMAS.DAY.Y’ALL!!!” As my dear friend and spiritual midwife La Tonia said “What an elegant departure is all I keep hearing… So classy!”

Pop on his 91st birthday on June 16, 2020.
Pop’s words of wisdom video message on his 91st birthday on June 16, 2020.

What was also magical is the way Pop went toe to toe with cancer. Pop joyfully journeyed past the time the doctors predicted as he lived and loved another and another and another day. Through it ALL and despite the trials and tribulations, Pop had shown that “It’s Still a Wonderful Life.” (Read how the Christmas card came about at Through it all, Pop continued to be a loving and dope example of how to walk with grace, perseverance, fun, laughter, thoughtfulness, ease, joy, and boundless love. I’m comforted knowing it was and IS well with his soul.

Pop’s daily oatmeal routine. Picture captured April 14, 2020.
Pop singing while making his oatmeal. Video captured May 9, 2020.

I feel a surprising sense of peace (Even in the midst of the teary eyed moments.) today, possibly brought on by talking to him and my placing a lit white candle and a sip of Johnny Walker Black (I joined him with a sip.) on Pop’s altar. And, while I miss him terribly, Pop’s beautiful spirit fills the space. The love of family and friends with their wonderful source of support, to include during a pandemic, was and is my (our) saving grace. Writing and posting the “Adventures of a HAWT Caregiver & DOPE Pop” also was my saving grace. With my previous divine assignment, I remain blessed, grateful, and honored to have been of contribution to Pop with providing a safe space for him to live and breathe. I pray and desire that I too can live my life with the peace, inspiration, ease, fun, wonder, love, and grace that Pop mastered. As my dear Bison friend and client, Marcia Watts said, “Pop was living even as he was transitioning. That’s the lesson I got from him, is to live.” I pray and wish that for us all.

If we have learned anything during these challenging pandemic times, is that life is indeed short. During this holiday season, please love up on your people and especially those who may be struggling to include the caregivers in your life. Someone(s) needs your love and support today.

Friends’ Ardella and Zoe had a Scrabble date with Pop. Picture captured December 28, 2019.

Wishing you and your loved ones peace and joy during this holiday season and in the new year!

-With all of our love and gratitude, Pop (RIP) and The Boxill Family.

Pop having fun. Picture captured April 23, 2020.

Be blessed. Be grateful. Be safe. Be well. Enjoy. Peace. Live. Love. So as Pop would say. “Have a good day. Be safe. Don’t work too hard. Love!” #BeDoLove #CareGiversMatter #CareGiver #CareGivers #FindYourZen #LivingOutLoud #ItIsWellWithHisSoul

Pop had been requesting to go to the beach. This is us Howarding on September 16, 2020 at Triton Beach in Edgewater, MD.
Pop had been requesting to go to the beach. Marla and Ardella joined us on September 16, 2020 at Triton Beach in Edgewater, MD.

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