First, I’d like to entertain you with the backstory. When I dine out I love sitting at the bar. It’s often where I look to first for seating when with myself or another. This probably came about for me the more and more I dined without a companion, particularly on business trips. And, then included those days when I choose to just be with me, whether by design or no one being available.

Bartenders provide company even if we don’t say much to each other. It’s like they are my secret appointed date. But, then what is true is I’ve always loved Mixology, so much so I received my bartending certificate some time ago (Why I never bartended professionally is for another post. However, I’m often appointed the resident bartender at gatherings.). Sure the bar area is all about the adult beverages. But, I’ve found I love the energy of the bar. This includes experiencing bartenders do their magic. Especially with the whole Mixology craze going on right now. It’s exciting witnessing the use of all types of lovely and interesting ingredients (i.e., thyme, rosemary, cucumber, beets, syrups, bitters, special libations, eclectic beers, etc.). It’s no longer just about Budweiser and vodka and cranberry juice. Although there is no judgment if that’s your thing. Okay, the foodie snob in me tries not to judge… Lol

I appreciate being able to talk to bartenders, if that’s my mood, of course (Or their mood. Nothing worse than a bartender that ignores me, if only for a drink, WHICH YOU ARE THERE TO PROVIDE! I digress.). Talking life. Impressing them with what I know. Getting suggestions. Being adventurous (I’ve started exploring Bourbon based cocktails. And, that’s been a stretch for me. But, I’ve been pleasantly surprised with the right combination of ingredients.). Sitting with a companion and having a conversation and enjoying the moment and the scene. Less feeling of being rushed to vacate the table. These are some additional cool things about sitting at the bar. However, not everyone digs sitting at the bar. Maybe feeling it’s not comfortable seating. Doesn’t set the desired mood. Feeling like it’s not ladylike.

Last week a dear friend of mine requested my company to go out for drinks. She explicitly said she wanted to sit at the bar. I was like, really. This because, it was delivered from someone whom, when we’ve dined out previously and I’ve requested to sit at the bar, they preferred not to. However, in an effort to show love to me, this time, she opened herself (and initiated) up to step out of her box and comfort level. When trying to decide the perfect bar to visit, it was clear that if we go somewhere and the bar is full we’d move on to find another that could accommodate us. This was another surprising declaration from my friend. As we drove off to go to one place we detoured because I thought a better option would be one of my favorite spots, Republic. Cool restaurant/bar, great cocktails, and the food is delish. Trifecta! Oh, and the customer service is typically attentive. These are all key components to a perfect dining experience. And, I knew we had to be strategic in our bar selection to ensure a comfortable and good time for my friend. I needed “Operation Bar Outing” to be a success and not a “See this is why I don’t like sitting at the bar.”

So we walked up to the restaurant door with anticipation, hoping there would be two available bar stools with our names written on them waiting just for us. And, they were. The cocktail menu wasn’t pleasing to oh risky one as the selections were a bit too Mixology for my friend, so it was the always on time glass of Riesling. I opted for one of my favs, the Last Word, which with slight coaching (a little on the sweet side please) was perfect. We dined on appetizers of pulled pork fries, pork empanadas, and shrimp sliders. Now that was some tasty bar food for ya. Oh, and let’s not forget the sweet tooth scratcher of the apple pie donut. Topped off by good and fun conversation. And, guess what? She had a great time sitting at the bar and is already plotting and planning for the next outing. SOLD!!!

I think of three things after this experience. First, we like what we like. This is cool and fair. However, sometimes we don’t know what we would or wouldn’t like until we try it. Preconceived notions, what our family taught us, or the messages we’ve received from society can tend to determine how we flow in the world. However, sometimes we should buck it, be risking, and step out of our often times suffocating boxes. Oh, the joy and fun that can be waiting for you when you’re a “Yes” to something new. And, it could be just what the doctor ordered. If you try something and find it’s not your cup of soothing tea, no harm. No burnt tongue. It’s just an opportunity to continue experiencing life, building your confidence, and obtaining a sense of you and who you are. Ultimately deciding to keep it moving on to what you do like (vodka and cranberry juice) and/or the next adventure.

The second takeaway is the importance of allowing others the opportunity to love and be a gift. We sometimes tend to think about what we can give, and not allowing others the gift of giving. This can require one to be open and vulnerable to receiving, which is difficult for some. However, that’s just as much as a gift, taking the focus off of you and being of service and present for another. It can be the most beautiful and selfless act one can do. Because of that moment at the bar and my knowing my friend was doing this for me, I felt/feel special. I felt/feel that I matter. I felt/feel loved. And, in turn, I imagine and hope she felt/feels the same. This is what’s real, true, and important to the success of any relationship.

The third takeaway is to respect people where they are. Just because I appreciate sitting at the bar, doesn’t mean others will. And, I get to respect and not shame people for their likes and dislikes. Yes, it is an honor for me to introduce someone to an experience they never thought of partaking in or feared. Creating joyful moments for others I consider a gift from God. Sometimes we all require encouraging from family and friends to move us from a place of fear to the ultimate joys of life. However, it’s not my place to on deaf ears, try and force or judge someone for where they are.

So today and ALWAYS I encourage you to do something new. Release the fear you have around people, places, and things. It’s about creating joyful moments one after the other, after the other… God has provided sooooooo many ways for us to explore and find our “sweet spot”. Also, surprise someone today and ALWAYS with a love offering showing just because I love you and you matter to me, I’d love to do this for you or with you. The joy you create and the smile and love you receive back will be priceless and continually revolving as it flows throughout the Universe. This giving others permission to do the same. And, that my friend is the BeDoLove way! Peace! #BeDoLove –kcb

“When was the last time you did something for the first time?” –Unknown

PS: Shout out to Marla for teaching me and reinforcing these valuable lessons about life, love, and friendship. Thank you for being you. Cheers! ♪♪One hundred bottles of beer on the wall… ♪♪ (hiccup)

When we don’t heal, we project!

It’s so easy to take our hurts, pains, frustrations, disappointments, etc. out on those who are closest to us. Projecting on to those who are in the line of fire of our long (or short) standing history of baggage we’ve unrightfully claimed. Especially directed to those who love and care deeply for us.

Your loved ones, coworkers, the postman (person), bus driver, supermarket cashier, barista, customer service rep, driver who mistakenly cuts you off, etc. we’re not placed in your path at a specified moment to dump on and be your punching bag. On the other hand, they often times are divinely placed mirrors for lessons, healing and love.  Not to absorb your subtle or overt expressions of pain.  Yet, we tend to play out some self-fulfilling prophecy when those we treat badly no longer want to relate with us as we now play the leading role of victim as opposed to asking ourselves “How did I create this?”

So I ask, what are you refusing to dig in and heal from? Who are you making yourself right to be (masking and pretending) while others absorb and inhale the negative energy you painfully and uneasily exhale?  Your pain will kill you!  Diseases will consume you.  But, what will suffer the most?  Your souls unfulfilled dreams.  A spirit slowly wilting away.  Loved ones and relationships that never peaked to their complete and true potential.  You know what happens to a dream deferred…?

It’s time to heal. I know.  It’s of you and in you.  But, it doesn’t have to be you, because after all it really isn’t.  You just adopted the pain and allowed it to take up residence and take over your made for love beating heart.  Trust, you are not alone.  We all have our demons and crosses to bear.  So I can honestly say, it’s never too late.  Help can be on the way.  All you need do is ask and be open to receive.  Open to heal.  Open to stand up to “it”.  “It” being all of the beings that didn’t love YOU!  Didn’t take care of YOU!  Didn’t nurture YOU!  Abused YOU!  Didn’t protect YOU!  Didn’t listen to YOU!  Didn’t see YOU!  They didn’t, but YOU are strong enough to take a stand for YOU.  Even if it means an ole school “Exorcist” exorcism and bathing in a sea of holy water that eventually beats and drowns “it” out of you.

My lovelies, we have faith in YOU! Hear me when I tell you that time is drawing near.  However, you’re still here in this moment and the next because God is still working in your favor to answer your prayers.  With that, I say to you, it’s time to heal.  Time to be free.  Time to let those you’ve taken hostage free.  Time to show up for thee, he, and she.  Time to be the loving YOU who God made you to BE!  Time to BeDoLove!  Namaste!  –kcb

Humph… Your life ain’t for everyone. I repeat, “YOUR.LIFE.AIN’T.FOR.EVERYONE!” The reality is some people just don’t know how to shut their traps. They think less about honoring relationships and more about showing they know something which they really know nothing about. Because, if they were really in the know of truth and consciousness, they wouldn’t “run tell dat“. Being in the know would be, I heard and respect my friend’s/family member’s pain, hurt, frustration, disappointment, actions, triumphs, or dreams. It would mean being more committed to being there in whatever loving capacity they require as opposed to violating their trust. Silence should come from a place of even if it is not expressed, “Please don’t mention this to anyone.” I felt it important to express that because I could just hear it now (person in the screeching loud voice) “Well they didn’t tell me not to say anything.” You do know in your heart of hearts that doesn’t let you off the hook right? Right? If not, please tell your wanting to be right self to go have several seats.

I find myself when having conversations of a sensitive nature with certain folk who I am hoping are my trusty confidants, expressing the fine print for fear they won’t read it. Or thinking if they do read it, they will eventually choose to disregard as they get caught up in the moment of the “oooooo gurl talk” (you men aren’t off the hook because y’all can be just as bad). “It” being that unsaid respectful code of your thoughts, feelings, actions, and dreams are safe with me. It’s like that chapter worth of fine print for medications. Basically saying if you take this there is a 99.9% chance you will die or at the very least lose your big toenail. Where was I going with that? Humph… Anyway! My point is no one should have to say all of that. It should be an automatic code of relationship 101, already embedded in our conscious subconscious. Meaning, what we share with each other stays with each other.

I’ve had to make a conscious decision to hone in on the art of attracting and acknowledging my ride or dies. The moment my best friend intuition and my inner Brooklynite Ralph Kramden from the Honeymooner’s kicks in and wants to scream out “YOU ARE A BLABBERMOUTH! A BLAAAAABEEEERMOUTH! OUT…!”, I cease and desist sharing, because I notice it is no longer about caring. The real is there are some folks that running their mouth is a way of life for them. They can’t help themselves. So in this case, you have to take care of you. Remember that just because someone is family or friend doesn’t mean they automatically can be crowned as being one you can share your most precious and intimate parts of your life with.

So I applaud those in the business of being that trusting sounding board and the support that is required for your loved ones while honoring boundaries and the code of silence. To you, I give the slow clap. Clap… Clap…. Clap… For those who have yet to master this, it really is easy. Simply stop thinking about yourself and what you gain when you decide to go doing the “Ooo Ooo…” And, think more about the person on the other end whose trust you’re about to betray. And, if that’s not sinking in, just ask yourself, “Would I like it if ShaNaNA went and told everyone that I slept with my husbands’ best friend’s cousin during a conjugal visit when I was really supposed to be visiting my uncle who’s really my father?” Yeah, I didn’t think so. Or maybe you might not care. But, that’s for another post. Either way, knock it off. Work on actually being the supportive, caring, loving, and trustworthy being that you profess yourself to be. Come on. You can do it. I know you can. Shhhhh… “Don’t just talk about it. BE about it.” And, I’m out. Peace! BeDoLove —kcb

I’m realizing more and more that in order to BE and have different, it’s up to me to DO different. 2015 was a year of deep reflection which included a heavy dose of therapy. Yep! I said therapy, which was (and will continue to be) an amazing experience. Getting real with oneself is imperative to a comprehensive healthy living lifestyle.

As I said goodbye to 2015 and hello to 2016, I rang in the New Year attending church. I hadn’t attended church on New Year’s Eve in yeeeeaaarrrsss. As of late church has represented death as I’ve been to more funerals than sometimes my heart can take. I wanted to switch up the pattern of what church was beginning to represent for me. I was happy to have listened and been guided to church on the eve by following the specially paved road to what awaited me. In order to BE and have different, it’s up to me to DO different. Ringing in the new year in church praising God and my life, and connecting with others through music, song, testimonies, and the good word was the perfect first step of LOVE for me as I entered the year of 2016.

What was cool is before church I first went out for dinner and a movie. How refreshing and different, this also was for me. It was just what the doctor ordered for my spirit. And, how refreshing it was to be in the company of a loving and supportive friend. You see, going into the new year in recent years wasn’t in a way that I set myself up for success. It was with sadness. I was hopeful and had faith (thank God for that which helped to sustain me) and I would eventually have a great year, but it was riddled with intermittent and sometimes often occurrences of pain based on the choices I was making for my life. Fast forward as I’m filled with gratitude and joy to be in a different and much healthier emotional, physical, and spiritual space TODAY. I’m grateful for the lessons learned. I’m grateful for the opportunity to continue evolving which I purposefully set out to do in the year of 2015. It’s actually what I set out to do every year, but in 2015, I got gangsta with it.

In 2015, I knew my life required a serious shift. My core was yelling out to me “WHY DO YOU KEEP DOING THIS ISH TO ME?!?!” Therefore, it was apparent that a heavy dose of self-care and self-love was in order. I repeat in order to BE different I had to DO different. By that, I got real with myself declaring I couldn’t do it alone. And, as I pondered what would be the setting that would resonate with me to facilitate (this isn’t my fist self-discovery rodeo as I’ve done plenty of experiential trainings) my shift, I was strongly guided by my inner voice to therapy. And, as The Universe would have it as soon as I declared therapy it is, I received the perfect therapist recommendation. And, although scary, I went all in (okay, sometimes there was resistance) to further self-discovery, acceptance, healing, growth, and change. I thought I was just going in with the purpose of flushing out what I already knew, but oh the things I’ve learned along the way. Sooooo many “aha moments” that date back to before I was born, to childhood, to my young adult life, to now. And, although sometimes hard to realize and talk about, it’s always been quite refreshing to process and take one more step further in my healing to my rebirth.

Interesting, though, as I’ve been reminded in recent weeks, is that the road to forgiveness, healing, self-discovery, and growth is never-ending. There are layers and layers to be explored and decoded. Triggers (whether seen or unseen) continue to greet me in a “you really didn’t think I was done with you” arrogant and surprise gut-punching way. I have my moment(s), yet I prevail better equipped to process my feelings and firmly exclaim you (thoughts/person) no longer are allowed to take up residence in my existence while depleting my spirit, stunting my growth, and stealing my joy. “Miss me wit dat.” And, “Grace” became my word of choice often whispering it to myself before and during those times when pain could have been the prevailing expression. I fell in love with “Grace” for it saved me many a day in keeping me sane and focused. I fell in love with “Grace” so much so that I’ve thought if I had a daughter; “Grace” would be her middle name. First name Brooklyn of course. Presenting a nice balance of funk and calm.

So I once again entered 2016 hopeful and with faith. This time exhaling breaths of lightness. Mission accomplished. As my man Ron would say, “Good job!” So good to make a declaration (what I promised myself in 2015), see it though, and reap the rewards to a revolution.

2016 is a big year for me. The year of “50”. I’m so excited to celebrate life among the living, as many have passed on. I’m grateful to be doing it in style and good health. I’m also excited with the thought of continuing to get to know and love up on Kathryn and watch her soar. She’s pretty cool and special.

Happy New Year my lovelies. This new year I charge you with healing, growing, and having fun while accomplishing it. One size doesn’t fit all, so, however, it works for you just do it. The world is waiting for YOU! You’re waiting for YOU! God is waiting for YOU to live in a way you’ve been divinely ordered here right at this time, in this moment to live with purpose and BeDoLove. Wishing you too an abundance of love, joy, peace, prosperity, fun and laughter, and a healthy emotional, physical and spiritual core. May you glide through life with love and light. I love you. ONWARD!!!  Namaste. BeDoLove  –kcb

PS: Happy 1 Year Anniversary to my http://www.BeDoLove.com blog. What an exhilarating joy it’s been to share my thoughts with love and transparency. I hope you’ve been inspired to LIVE and LOVE! Thank you!

This weekend I received word that another dear friend of mine transitioned. Cancer strikes another. With each and every loved one’s precious physical exit from earth, I am thankful for one of the most loving lessons/messages they leave and bless me/us with. I simply continue to be reminded that today and this moment is ALL I/YOU have.  And, for that precious lesson I am grateful.

I’ve heard folks tell me either they love and are inspired by my zest for life or they sometimes think I’m doing too much. Well, I learned long ago what it means to value life and love. It’s a way of being that came easily to me at a very young age. However, in recent years while sitting at bedsides, I’ve witnessed enough of my “only just begun stages of their life” loved ones courageously and gracefully deal with the diseases they have eventually succumbed to. I’ve been to enough funerals that I get it. I get the inevitable and much-needed message being replayed over and over again from the pulpit about what it means to LIVE life.

With this valuable lesson, I ask you (and myself), “What are you going to do “TODAY” to ensure you’re living the life you’ve always dreamed of for yourself? To live the life that you’ve been placed on this earth at this very moment to LIVE. Because, even for me, I know I haven’t scratched the surface of what I was put here to do and who to love. Therefore, I continue to put in the work of releasing fear and living outside of my comfort zone/box as I travel my true and divine path. And, you too get to explore and bring to life the beautiful wonders created just for YOU! Ultimately leading you to pure joy, gratitude, peace, harmony, and love, with every amazing accomplishment, blissfully fulfilled.

So I say today and ALWAYS to BE something. DO something. LOVE someone or something. Take a chance and dare to be YOU, because, it’s NEVER too late to BE who you’ve always wanted to BE. To DO all you’ve wanted to DO. To LOVE who or what you’ve always wanted to LOVE. And, with each and every way you honor your core and God, you get to be a gift to YOU. And, in turn YOU get to inspire and BE a gift to those who are waiting on you to breathe the essence of YOU.

“Let me tell you somethin’. This here, right now, at this very moment, is all that matters to me…” –“Love Jones” It’s urgent right now lovelies. It really is. –kcb  BeDoLoveLIVE

I had the lovely honor of saying a few words at my dear friend Jackie’s 50th birthday celebration a couple of weekends ago. Well with me few words can be challenging, especially if someone has filed an authentic, loving and beautiful space and connection in my heart and spirit. Jackie is a true gift to me (and many others) from Mother, Father, God, The Universe. Who knew when we met one fall day around this time in 2001, that we were about to embark on a journey of life, friendship, and growth together?

Jackie, I’m so excited to see what’s in store for you and us as we with open hearts journey on into the next phase of our lives, bold, beautiful, sexy, and 50. Which, by the way, you wear well and, therefore, ease my approaching “I can’t believe I’m turning 50.” Below is what I read at the celebration. And, below that is Jackie’s thoughts to me she posted on Facebook after the celebration. Truly blessed and grateful I am. I love you, Jackie!

I hope you are all just as blessed to have friendships that exist and exude loving reciprocity such as I’ve had all my life. It’s essential. And, I ask you, when is the last time you celebrated a friend and expressed to them how special they are? You really should give them their roses while they are here. Love!

My love thoughts read to Jackie at her celebration (what an AMAZING affair it was): Dear Jackie, Any opportunity you have you’re like a quick sly fox. A friendly fox swooping down right into the midst of an existing conversation. But there is something different about your plan of social circle bust up. You often don’t come in eager to talk about you or whatever the existing conversation that’s going on, but instead you come with a loving agenda. An agenda of providing thoughtful, loving, fun, and sometimes silly thoughts of a well sort out particular family member, friend, perhaps a colleague in that circle, by providing your thoughtful memories or thoughts. And, I’ve been blessed many a times to be one of those people on the receiving and humbling end of hearing you speak of me in a way that sometimes is a “WOW! Not only does she love me. But, she SEES me”.

Jackie, you have a gift. A gift of creating one to feel special. To feel loved. To feel noticed oftentimes during a time when they may need it most to be SEEN! I’ve come to realize that if ever I need an ego boosting or head blow up moment… Or if I’m on the campaign trail for love, that you should introduce me. Those moments I could cunningly make eye contact with you so you’ll come over and work your not short or lost for words magic.

Yesterday you commented on one of my Facebook posts and you said, “Kathryn Boxill you are such a blessing to a lot of people… mainly me!” Well, Jackie Walker, it’s safe to say by the many beautiful smiling faces here today to celebrate your amazing 50, that you are such a blessing to a lot of people. I thank you for being that person to me and being one of my biggest cheerleaders. I thank you for being a mirror and example with your brand of love that’s steeped in consistency, acknowledgments, vulnerability, and fun. You breathe and ooze unconditional love. It is unconditional love that allows me to just BE ME in all of the interesting and sometimes “Huh?” twist and turns of my life.

I am grateful to Mother, Father, God, The Universe for ordering our footsteps right into each other’s lives. And, gifting me, you.

Jackie Walker, I wish for you the same unconditional love that you extend to many. I wish for moments that when you need it most people will speak to you and of you with love and reverence. I wish you mental and emotional peace and harmony. I wish you clarity for your passions to come through and feed you with so much joy in your next phase of life. And, I wish you many more enriching times of love, growth, fun, and laughter with Brenda.

I love you, my friend. I love you. Happy Birthday!!!

BeDoLove, Kathryn 9/12/15

Jackie’s love thoughts to me posted on Facebook:

Artwork by Keisha Carroll of Mosaic Art Studios

The heart where God dwells has this infinite capacity to love. Having said that, I love a significant number of family and friends and a whole host of other things that bring me joy! I want to take a special moment to both honor and thank my Sister-Friend Kathryn Boxill. You can’t sleep on the quiet ones. Kathryn is the epitome of “Be Do Love”. She is this butterfly that possesses all this beauty; but she won’t demand your attention like the cute puppy that wants a treat…no-no she rests in her humility and she paints on her canvas, she cultivates color, art and poet expressions and it is up to us to notice. During my birthday celebration, I looked around the venue and saw this awesome artwork of me…and I thought wow!!! But how, who, when…and did not know until later in the evening that it was a gift from Kathryn. Not for recognition or fanfare, but because she is that beautiful butterfly who doesn’t have to do all that…Kathryn, you are beauty; you are one of God’s finest works! I love you girl! Thank you for the gift of the magnificent artwork and the gift of you. I’ve attached a pic of one piece that was done. Kathryn, I’d like you give a shout to the sister who drew this. ONWARD!!!! 9/13/15

Each morning we rise and shine to the dawn of a new day. But, do you know there is someone(s) you cross paths with on a daily/weekly basis that you could mean the world to? I’m not talking about your child, significant other or that special someone you wake up to every day. Although sure they are important and a given to receive your love and attention. My pop calls me in the morning at least a few times a week, particularly as I drive to work. I am truly grateful for him and those special moments and try not to take them for granted.

Typically, at least once a week I gas up at a specific gas station when I enter Annapolis, which I pass on my way to work. One day as I entered the gas station, I looked up and noticed the cashier was looking my way and smiling as I pulled up to my usual front and center pump. As I stepped out of Lincoln and approached her (it’s cash only, less expensive station) I smiled and gave her a warm ♪♪Good moorrrniinnng♪♪ (sang it despite being extremely tired after a previous hellacious flying experience the day before), followed by brief pleasantries, and a “have a nice day”. Some days she will acknowledge either how dressed down I am “you working out today” or how dressed up I am “You look nice” (with a look of WOW and approval). There are days I acknowledge to her that she wasn’t there on previous visits, and I ask her how her day/week off was. When I ponder on it, I miss her smile when I pull in and see she’s not working. She probably doesn’t even realize how grateful I am, because sometimes her smile has been the first one that I’ve experienced for the day. I think I’m going to print this out and give it to her, so she knows what impact she has on me, and I’m sure other customers. It would also be a nice way to show my gratitude and appreciation for her and how she connects with me.

Okay, you might need another example of what it’s like to be a gift to someone. This year I hired a new employee. Every morning he makes it a point to stick his head in my office to say “Good Morning Ms. Boxill”. Sometimes he’s reluctant to do so because he notices my head buried in my desktop with my morning email reads and replies. Some days he might not immediately speak, but eventually comes at some point and says “I saw you were busy earlier, but I wanted to say good morning.” Sometimes he’s apologetic about it. And, I always respond in kind with “Oh no, thank you”. You see, even in my businessness I have to be mindful to genuinely acknowledge him with morning pleasantries. After all, he could just as easily allow himself to become buried with work and numb to what should be an automatic and comes naturally to him. He blesses me. Therefore, I bless him in authentic kind. Reciprocity ya dig?!

So who is your “Morning Connection”? Could be a barista, a security guard/front desk attendant/receptionist at your home or office. Perhaps your daily bus driver or train conductor, a neighbor walking the dog, or someone you see at the gym during your morning workouts. Or maybe, a regular customer of yours, UPS/FedEx/mail person, cleaning lady, colleague, boss, or maintenance engineer. Or even a homeless person you might not notice, but who to them you are their normal. Either way, if you haven’t already, take note. Be present to your surroundings and those in it. Go where you are needed. Because it is no accident that these love beings are placed in the path of your daily walk with life.

The next time you see your “Morning Connection” and every other time after that sing ♪♪Gooooood Moooooorrrnnnniinnnggg♪♪ (or Good Afternoon or Evening applies too) to them. Take a moment to ask how their day is going or weekend was. Give a nice compliment (i.e., nice haircut, girl that’s a beautiful blouse, you do a great job at…). During your normal morning ritual, purchase two bagels instead of one and gift one to said homeless person or cleaning person. Find out your front desk attendants birthday and present them with breakfast or flowers on their special day. Matter of fact, you don’t have to wait for their birthday. Just do it whenever. Random acts of kindness can provide much joy, gratitude, and continued abundance.

You see where I’m going with this? Because, after all you could be someone’s first “Morning Connection” that gives them the love and boost to get them through another second, another day. You never know who needs you first thing. Everyone has a story. Everyone is not fortunate enough to be blessed with a rising to a new day sun smile, kiss, hug, “Good morning” or “I love you”. So be the beautifully unwrapped gift they need more than anything. Right in that precious moment. Be the gift! Hopefully, your bright energy will be infectious, and they will feed off of it and in turn be a gift to another and another and another. And, especially to themselves. You see how this works? This love game is so much bigger than you might think.

Let’s make it a fabulous and loving day and upcoming week filled with authentic “Morning Connections”. Matter of fact; make it morning, noon, and night. I love you. Oh, and “Good morning. You look amaaaaaziiing. Have a fabulous day”. Namaste!!! ONWARD!!! BeDoLove

Repeat after me: Divine connections and opportunities are tracking me down like a silent yet deliberate ninja swooping down. I am a magnet attracting wonderful and well-appointed blessings. Because, as long as I continue to live in good faith, Mother, Father, God, The Universe will reward me with what was ALWAYS meant to be. You must trust and believe your steps were ordered well before you were even conceived.

Don’t hang on to people, places, or things that are not ultimately attracted to you or you to them and do not serve your higher purpose. You MUST let them go to OPEN up those precious spaces for those divinely ordered and beautiful blessings.

Why do we pick and choose what is to be manifested? It really is already ours. We can actually have it ALL and be the queens and kings living our true and created just for us existence. Fear no more your power. Fear no more true joy because you are so used to having doubt and pain as a result of dysfunctional experiences and relationships that now have you subconsciously wounded into believing this is all you can have. It’s like thinking an oppressively hot, humid and breezeless summer day can never again exude an effortlessly swirling cool and refreshing breeze that comforts and nurtures your entire being. Chile please. Oh, and also fear no more what they may think or say. You are not responsible for another’s low vibrating walk of shame with each quicksand step now stuck in their righteous hell. Them wanting to drag you down too because they just can’t see what glory awaits them if they can just open up their heart and mind and SEE what is truly and lovingly meant to be!

With the grace, mercy, and favor of God, as long as you are living a life of integrity, grace, and LOVE, the beings, the promotion you wanted, the money for the bills, new house or college tuition, and the love of your life will come. And, whatever else your spirit yearns for as your soul screams out frantically like the GPS for your life with life fulfilling directions and purpose that will gracefully dance into your life one by one by one… It will be so blissfully overwhelming that you will eventually have to pinch yourself as you finally realize and profess “YES! I AM FINALLY LIVING AND LOVING AMONGST THE LIVING!”

Keep the faith. Stay positive in the midst of the storms. Be OPEN and ready to receive. Remember this, you will not see the blessings full bloom unless you are fully present to know when they have arrived and have been planted firmly before YOU and for YOU. And, THEN have the ability to accept them with loving, nurturing, purposeful and authentic actions as opposed to dismissive sabotaging infractions.

The wheels are already turning behind the scenes my lovelies. Again before you were even born as this well-appointed human being. Let the blessings flow like the Niagara Falls cup which runneth over. We ain’t seen nothing yet. Trust and believe life can begin again at this moment and the next and the next… But first you must Believe! Sprinkled with: Love! Faith! Hope! Gratitude! Compassion! Openness! Courage! Vulnerability! Authenticity! Abundance!!! BeDoLove! Repeat… –kcb