It is Well with Popโ€™s Soul – Part I – Adventures of a HAWT Caregiver & DOPE Pop


Well, here we are. My brothers (Terence, Gregory, and Alec) and I had the honor of releasing our 91 years young father while at home Friday, December 25, 2020 around 4:05pm to depart and be with The Ancestors and to joyfully become our personal Angel!


As my brother Greg put it, โ€œPop went out like a manโ€™s man.โ€ Iโ€™ll add that Pop transitioned as the magical spiritual warrior that he is. Yes, Enric Quentin Boxill embarked on his new assignment on Christmas Day. โ€œCHRISTMAS.DAY.Yโ€™ALL!!!โ€ As my dear friend and spiritual midwife La Tonia said โ€œWhat an elegant departure is all I keep hearing… So classy!โ€


How else is Pop magical? My brother Greg, witnessed Pop take his last breath at the same time I was logging on to our family Christmas Zoom gathering. It was perfect as being with family at that time allowed for the blow of his passing to not be so intense and dramatic. It was easy and graceful, just like him. And, if youโ€™re wondering, we decided it was best to wait until after the zoom to share the news. My family says the Oscar should go to me.


How else is Pop magical? Pop was a masterful OG charmer. The ladies (and men) loooooved Pop. When he was in the hospital followed by hospice care, the nurses loved taking care of him as he was easy, gracious, and often had them blushing. Well, as he was prepared to exit my place, it was done by whom? Women! The hospice nurse came to declare his death. Followed by two Black young ladies arriving from the funeral home to carry him off. My brothers were in awe after realizing no men were coming behind them to support them. I was like โ€œPop is something else.โ€ ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ


Pop fought a good fight against cancer, going way past the time the doctors predicted. Pop had shown that โ€œItโ€™s Still a Wonderful Life,โ€ despite the trials and tribulations. And, it is indeed well with his soul. Our family is so blessed and grateful to have had Pop here at least through this Christmas. God is awesome.

It will always be an honor to have been of contribution to Pop with providing a safe space for him to live and breathe. As my divine assignment has come to an end (with the exception of working on arrangements), I pray and desire that I too can live my life with the peace, the ability to inspire, ease, fun, wonder, love, and grace that Pop mastered. As my dear Bison friend and client, Marcia Watts said, โ€œPop was living even as he was transitioning. Thatโ€™s the lesson I got from him, is to live.โ€ I pray and wish that for us all. As Pop would say, “Have a good day. Be safe. Don’t work too hard. Love!” Be blessed. Be grateful. Be safe. Be well. Enjoy. Peace. Live. Love. PS: Pop is being cremated. And, weโ€™ll inform of arrangements as they are developed. #BeDoLove #91YearsYoung #CareGiversMatter #CareGiver #CareGivers #FindYourZen #LivingOutLoud

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  1. Amen.
    Kathryn, I am grateful for your ability to share your experience of this life altering event. The fact that you are your fatherโ€™s daughter is made all the more clear by the grace that you have shown us during this time. Iโ€™m sure that the telling of it also has a cathartic effect. My deepest condolences to you and your siblings. May he Rest In Peace and May his memory enrich us.
    With Love, your Cousin Pat

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